We might always hear people say that marriage is hard work but one man and wife are preaching the complete opposite. According to them, marriage is a team effort and isn't that hard!
Ryan Stephens is a spouse, father, and a blogger at the website 'Dialed in Men,' which he began in 2016 so as to share the knowledge that he's gained to his own child with the goal of providing him with every tool he'll require to explore life.
"The ultimate goal is an ever-growing, scientifically-based blueprint for him to have health, wealth and success—and for this site to be a resource for him if anything ever happened to us," he composes, emphasizing that a lot of his tips are pertinent to all men.
His posts cover an expansive scope of subjects ranging from how to be a decent parent, how to get your finances correct and even how to battle dejection in the present society.
Be that as it may, it's his recent blog entry—which was actually composed by his significant other, Alaina—on his "six rules for marital success," which is going insanely viral. He shared the post in a thread as of late, and it’s been retweeted almost 9,000 times since then.
Their primary message is that, in opposition to what romcoms may have shown you, the "recipe for marital success" is "focused more on being teammates and less on being soulmates."
His first rule: "No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you. It’s one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse’s character. Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else."
Rule number two: "Over-communicate. You cannot read each other’s minds. Never assume the other person knows what you meant. Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen. Double check if necessary,"
This is especially solid counsel for men, given that "assuming everything is fine just because your wife isn’t complaining," is one of the greatest indications of separation spouses generally miss.
Rule number three: "Try new things together. Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it. Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together."
Indeed, research has demonstrated that completing an activity together, especially one that is adrenaline-filled can accomplish a ton to restore a marriage that is gone somewhat stale.
Rule number four: "Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other. Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc. Never cut the other person down when they’re struggling."
Rule number five: "Be grateful for each other’s contributions. Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another. And don’t keep score. If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter."
Finally, rule number six: “Trust and respect each other. Especially in front of others, including your children. If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse? Enough said,”
These tips may sound unromantic to individuals who trust that marriage ought to be about hot and raw connection, however, couples who've been together for a long time know how accurate this list is! What do you think?