The most important reasons for people to stay involuntarily single are their lack of flirting skills, followed by skills in perceiving signals of interest, ‘mating effort’, and choosiness.
It's 2021 and people are almost successful in finding answers to every other question, perhaps except the very personal question 'why they are still single?'. Maybe, it's high time you should set out to search for its answer - the results below might tad bit help you to come up with a solution to change your 'single' status.
People need to learn flirting and understand signals of interest, as well as being willing to put in sufficient amounts of time and effort to attract prospective partners, says a study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences.
Not all single people are unhappy and they are happy with their status until they find a good match. According to an author Menelaos Apostolou of the University of Nicosia (Cyprus), about half of single people are not willingly single; they’d like to have a partner, but couldn't find a suitable one.
Last year gave singletons a good excuse as to why they’ve not had much look in the love department. Meeting and hanging out with new people during covid hasn’t exactly been the easiest task. But soon when the Covid situation is going to be over, single people would have to find a new, better excuse.
Apostolou stated some clear reasons for people being involuntarily single - poor flirting skills, low ability in recognizing flirting signs, a lack of effort, and a high degree of choosiness.
To prove his theory, he conducted a test on 1,228 men and women, with an average age of about 30 years. Out of 48% of 'single' participants, 47% had difficulties attracting a partner, 30% said they were ‘between relationships,’ and 23% said they preferred to be single.
Participants had to respond on a scale of one to five to a series of statements including ‘I do not know how to flirt’, ‘I cannot totally pick up and interpret signals of interest’, ‘I dedicate all my energy to my romantic relationships’ and ‘I am always very selective when choosing romantic partners.’
As per the results, the most important reasons for people to stay involuntarily single were their lack of flirting skills, followed by skills in perceiving signals of interest, ‘mating effort’, and choosiness.
However, the participants may have been biased in their responses, for example by not wanting to admit that they were bad at flirting, and that ‘reverse causation’ may play a role as longer periods of singlehood may diminish flirting skills.
On the whole, the author summarised: ‘We found that low scorers in flirting capacity, capacity to perceive signals of interest, and mating effort, were more likely to be involuntary single than in an intimate relationship, and more likely to experience longer spells of singlehood.’
So, it's not always about how you dress or how much money you're spending on the restaurant bills, it could be because of the lacking in the way you talk. It might be time to start researching some conversation starters that don’t involve cheesy, cringe-worthy compliments.
Article Source: Unilad