Recently, after announcing that her family was growing, Emily Ratajkowski said that she and her husband won’t know the gender of their baby until the child is 18 years old.
Usually, parents are very eager to find out the gender of their children. Especially when it's time to design the nursery. However, that is not the case with Emily Ratajkowski.
The model broke this news on Instagram on 26th October 2020 by sharing Vogue’s digital cover of her which shows the 29-year-old cradling her pregnant stomach.
The post got a lot of traction from celebrities around the world. Many celebrities including Gigi Hadid, Ashley Graham, Paris Hilton, Jen Atkin, and Kourtney Kardashian commented how happy they were.
After posting some pictures and videos of her pregnancy journey, she penned an open letter for the publication where she discusses her pregnancy and her child.
“WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I tell friends that I’m pregnant, their first question after “Congratulations” is almost always “Do you know what you want?” We like to respond that we won’t know the gender until our child is 18 and that they’ll let us know then. Everyone laughs at this. There is a truth to our line, though, one that hints at possibilities that are much more complex than whatever genitalia our child might be born with: the truth that we ultimately have no idea who—rather than what—is growing inside my belly. Who will this person be? What kind of person will we become parents to? How will they change our lives and who we are? This is a wondrous and terrifying concept, one that renders us both helpless and humbled.”
She further explained,
“I like the idea of forcing as few gender stereotypes on my child as possible. But no matter how progressive I may hope to be, I understand the desire to know the gender of our fetus; it feels like the first real opportunity to glimpse who they might be. As my body changes in bizarre and unfamiliar ways, it’s comforting to obtain any information that might make what’s coming to feel more real.”
The whole letter was very heartfelt and very true. It captures the sentiments of a woman very well and breaks stereotypes as well. Many couples tend to say that they are pregnant. However, the acclaimed model has a different perspective on this.
“My husband likes to say that “we’re pregnant,” I tell him that while the sentiment is sweet, it’s not entirely true. I resent that his entire family’s DNA is inside of me but that my DNA is not inside him. “It just seems unfair,” I say, and we both laugh. It’s kind of a joke, but just like the remark we make about our child’s gender, there is truth behind it. Pregnancy is innately lonely; it’s something a woman does by herself, inside her body, no matter what her circumstances may be. Despite having a loving partner and many female friends ready to share the gritty details of their pregnancies, I am ultimately alone with my body in this experience. There is no one to feel it with me—the sharp muscular aches in my lower abdomen that come out of nowhere while I’m watching a movie or the painful heaviness of my breasts that now greets me first thing every morning. My husband has no physical symptoms in “our” pregnancy, another reminder of how different a woman and man’s experience of life can be.”
Keeping all this in view, the Gone Girl actor continued that she wants to impose ‘as few gender stereotypes on [her] child as possible’ but despite this, she understands the desire of wanting to know the gender of her growing baby.
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