Being a mom is not easy. Bringing up a child is a difficult task and at times can be a bit overwhelming for young moms. Moms are worried about their kids all the time and the same can be said about mothers. These are some simple ways suggested for you to support your mom friends during this period.
We live in times where pretty much everyone is busy with their daily lives. No one has time for anyone. So we bottle up our stress, not willing to burden others of our emotional distraught. The same is the situation among our mom friends. They want to hang out with us the same way they used to do before getting married. But with kids in the picture now, making plans and implementing was never that difficult. Now, what role we can play in these situations? Here are a few suggestions for you to be there for your friends, helping them to relax and be a helping hand in their busy lives.
Being a parent is a full-time job. It's the best time of a person's life, building up a kid's life and seeing them grow up into beautiful beings is a rewarding thing. But we can't deny the fact that this is a stressful job. Worrying about every little thing about their lives at times makes a person forget about their existence. Helping your friend to step out of the house for some fresh air is something you can do often. There is no condition whether they can bring their kids along or not. Whatever is feasible for them. But an ideal situation for your friend would be when you pick the hang out place smartly. Pick a kid-friendly place, like with a play area or a trampoline. Tell them the whole situation beforehand so they can plan it accordingly. In case the plan gets postponed, don't forget to assure her that it's no big deal. You guys can always select a new date.
Remind your friend from time to time that it's completely normal to feel overwhelmed with her emotions. She is allowed to feel this way, given the responsibility she bores. This means she can take a break from regular things and does not have to feel guilty about it. Slip her the business card of your local cleaning company. On the back of the card, write, “You’re awesome, and you deserve a break.” Tag her in a Facebook post for a meal-planning service or subscription kids' clothing box.
The first thing we need to understand is that moms are people too. People often ask about each other's kids and their activities. But often forget to ask about the mom who is trying her best to keep the kids happy. Sleep-deprived moms need some cheering as well to keep them going. What we, as friends and fellow moms, need to do is start asking each other about how they feel. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and tired sometimes. Moms are human too. Allow your friends to bring out the entire self to the conversation and actually put their hearts out.
Texted your friend but she didn't reply? Well, she might have smiled at your sweet text and even replied in her mind but then one of the kid either got too loud or too quiet and the text message took a back seat in her mind.
To show your support and love, you can actually write a handwritten note and even put some sticky notes inside. These handy notes can be real game-changers. The support and kindness and the little details will spur your friend to reply in return. Your signed sticky notes on her refrigerator or bathroom mirror will keep on reminding her that someone has her back and that's all she needs to keep her motivated.our friend to reply in kind. Your signed sticky notes on her refrigerator or bathroom mirror will keep reminding her that someone has her back and that's all she needs to keep her motivated.
If you are a mom too, then this is the best way to bond with your friend. Pick a place that's convenient for both of you and take the kids out to play. Let them enjoy making new friends and playing with other kids meanwhile you get the time to bond with your friend. For a young mom, who at times doubt her parenting, nothing could be better than reassuring her what good job she is doing. Saying, “Your kids are really good at sharing with others!” really does go a long way to the mom who feels like she’s never going to get this parenting thing right.